Have you heard of the game called “You Impress Me”? Neither had I until I made it up this morning!
Shhhh. Please don’t tell my students, but if I call anything a “game”, they think it’s way more fun than it really is. ; )
When’s the last time someone said they were “impressed” by you? I can’t remember the last time someone said that to me.
To impress means to make someone feel admiration or respect or to literally make a mark. As I look around my classroom, especially at this time of the schoolyear, I know my students well. I know their strengths and weaknesses and I find that I’m continuing to learn new things about each of them. We have a solid classroom community and each one of us (myself included) plays a role in our little social learning environment. Most of us contribute positively most of the time and all of us contribute negatively at some point in some way.
Each of my students has equal value in our classroom and I want them to know that I notice them. So, today we played the game “You Impress Me”.
I typed out a short note to each of my students explaining what impresses me about each of them. I tried to be specific and sincere with each impression statement. Depending on how our week has gone (goodness knows I’m tired this week), this required some thought, but it put me in good head space to focus on what I do appreciate about each kid.
After they finished their work, they got to come to my table where I laid all of the notes out in a grid. The kids read each of the notes and then had three guesses to pick the one that I wrote for them. Boy, did they enjoy that! Some of the kids needed more than three guesses, but that was ok.
It was so interesting to see what the kids guessed about themselves. Some of them were even helping one another and saying, “I KNOW that one is about you!”
Tired teachers, tired parents, tired anybody-that-works-with-kids, hang in there. : ) Keep your head in a good space and keep your eyes peeled for what is going well with your students. For every kid that’s driving you bonkers, there are 10 more that are doing wonderful things. I’m thinking about Scooter and Eddie! Remember: Keep it Positive!
Another Friendship Friday in the books. Today’s theme: compliments.
Have you ever struggled to accept a compliment from someone else? It’s kind of a weird concept, but sometimes I find myself deflecting attention when someone pays me a compliment. I want to explain why I don’t deserve it instead of just smiling and saying, “thank you.”
This afternoon, while my students were taking a math test, I called them over to me one at a time. I quietly complimented each child and found it was quite easy to think of something different to say to each one of them. Some kids leaned in and said, “thank you.” Some kids looked at me like I had five heads. Some kids smiled and said nothing. Some kids acted like they couldn’t wait to get back to their math tests.
Earlier this week we started reading You Are Special by Max Lucado and we finished it up today. At the end, we talked about the theme of the story – each person is unique and we don’t have to do anything extra to become more special or more important. We just are.
At the end of the day, each student folded a paper into 8 pieces. In the first box, each student wrote their name and decorated the box to represent themselves. Next, I played fun music and the kids quietly went around to each other’s desks and wrote compliments to one another in the empty boxes. After a few songs, the kids went back to their desks, soaked up their compliments, and then we all said a giant, “THANK YOU” to one another.
The kids left happy. I left happy (I did put out a paper for myself – it’s cool for kids to compliment their teachers too!).
Pay someone a sincere compliment today. They might need it more than you know.
Feel Good Friday
Today was Friday, but it wasn’t Friendship Friday – it was FEEL GOOD FRIDAY!
If I did Friendship Friday in my classroom every Friday, I would run out of surprising student pairings very quickly. I like the idea of Fridays feeling special (and not just because we all get to run away from school for two days at the 3:15 bell), so I started Feel Good Friday. Now, when my students come in on Fridays, they ask, “Is this Friendship Friday or Feel Good Friday”? Either way, they’re happy!
Over the years I’ve learned that time invested in structured activities that allow my students to build relationships with one another and to learn how to communicate with one another is time well spent. So, on Friday afternoons, we take a break from the curriculum and we do something that’s intentionally fun, yet still has a purpose. “Free time” is not in my teaching vocabulary (sorry to all my free-spirited colleagues!). It may be that I am a control-freak or it may be that I think my students can feel like they’re having a blast while I’m slipping in something meaningful. Sometimes they don’t even notice. ; )
Have you ever played Table Topics? It’s a little set of conversation-starter cards that come in a pack. Someone chooses a card, reads it out loud, and everyone goes around and answers the question. The questions are fun, thought-provoking, and original. Sometimes I pull the cards out when we have an extra minute in the classroom and my kids get excited to share their answers with their classmates.
So, today for Feel Good Friday, everyone made their own Table Topics game to take home for the weekend. This week the topic of screen time and choosing to interact with other humans came up several times, so it seemed appropriate. The kids had a great time brainstorming fun questions, writing them on notecards, and planning when and how they would take a few minutes to play with their families this weekend. It was a simple, fun activity that will hopefully create some fun experiences for my students over the weekend.
Let’s keep creating opportunities for our kids to interact appropriately with one another, even if it takes some extra time and energy (hey, sometimes I sit and stare at my phone too!). Hang in there!
I’m all too aware that if you’re going to start a blog, you’re supposed to write regularly for the blog to gain traction. I have an excuse, though. I AM A TEACHER.
That should pretty much say it all, right?! : )
I must admit – the beginning of this school, the adventure of teaching concurrently, the extra expectations that have been added onto teachers’ plates – I have found it to be overwhelming and it’s honestly left me stunned. Having just finished the fourth week of school (after two full weeks of planning and training), I am just now feeling like I’m emerging (sort of) out of a fog.
Yesterday something special happened in my 2nd grade classroom. We celebrated Friendship Friday.
Friendship Friday started a long time ago at the suggestion of a Speech and Language Pathologist who was working with one of my students on social skills. She suggested that I create opportunities in class to specifically teach my students about friendship and how to make new friends. Friendship Friday was born!
I purposefully put students into unlikely pairs and they’re “friends” for the day. Before I pair them up, I frontload on what to do if you get paired up with someone you’re really not expecting and what kind of facial and body expressions are appropriate if you’re actually a little disappointed. For that day, the kids work on assignments together, play at recess together, eat lunch together, and usually get to complete a special activity together at the end of the day.
For most kids, this is a raging success. There’s always a pair or two that struggles to compromise at recess and find an activity that they can both enjoy, but the rest of the class has made a real connection and feels wanted and included for that special day. Friendship Fridays are GREAT days.
This year, I’ve avoided introducing my kids to Friendship Fridays because I wasn’t sure how to bridge the literal divides between physical and remote students. And then there was one! When kids started coming back to school and I was down to one remote student, I knew Friendship Friday was ON.
This past Friday was Friendship Friday and I couldn’t have been prouder of my students. I watched a little boy in my classroom act like it was totally normal for him to have an “online” buddy. They worked together all day using the handy wireless Bluetooth speaker. They played computers games together in the afternoon with my online student screen sharing through Zoom so my physical student could see which game was being played. I heard them offering to let each other go first when they were taking turns talking about things. It was a little strange, but it was even more heartwarming.
There is so much that feels weird at school right now – desk shields, masks, remote students, dry hands from all of the washing and sanitizing (anyone else out there having to moisturize like crazy!?) – but it’s really encouraging to see kids adapting and learning and feeling good. Who knew that desk shields and clothespins could be so handy for creating more desk space? My students are geniuses!
Keep looking for what’s going right, people. Your efforts are making a difference.
A big, hairy, audacious dream? Ewwww?! Sounds a little gross. Let me explain.
Last week my church hosted a couple, Kat and Elmo, who are missionaries to Peru. Elmo preached in our morning service about the idea of allowing God to give you a big, hairy, audacious dream – something that sounds unachievable – something that you couldn’t accomplish on your own. And then, start taking steps towards it and see what God does.
I thought the phrase, “big, hairy, audacious dream” was kind of funny, but it stuck with me and all afternoon I wondered, “What is my big, hairy, audacious dream that God has given me?” And then it dawned on me. I’m right in the middle of it.
Writing and publishing a children’s book, collaborating so closely with a co-worker to create something so large, extending ideas about social/emotional instruction beyond the walls of my classroom – these are not things that come naturally to me. This IS my big, hairy, audacious dream, and I am literally in the middle of seeing it fulfilled.
Spiritually related or not, this is a valuable message that kids need right now. I’ve always thought it was a little cheesy to tell kids things like, “You’re awesome!” or “You can do anything you put your mind to!” These are nice sentiments, but I’m also a realist. We’re not “awesome” all of the time and there are probably some things in life that I CAN’T do (like play in the WNBA. Bummer.) and that’s ok!
I think, instead, the message that I’m going to share with my students this year will be “Hard work pays off.” Because it does. When kids put in the work, keep taking little steps towards their goal (academic, sports, whatever), good things are going to happen.